It's easier to pray for everyone else. Your kids. Your co-parent's heart softening. Your finances working out. Somewhere in the middle of praying for the whole world around you, it's easy to forget that you're allowed to ask for things too — not just endurance to get through today, but real, specific requests for your own healing, your own purpose, your own life.

God isn't waiting for you to finish taking care of everyone else before He'll listen to what you need. He wants to hear from you directly. So here are 30 specific ways to pray for yourself — not generic, not vague, but the actual language for the actual season you're in.

For Your Identity

  1. Pray for clarity on who you are outside of the marriage that ended.
  2. Pray for the courage to like the person you're becoming, even mid-construction.
  3. Pray for release from the labels — "divorced," "failed," "broken" — that don't belong to you anymore.
  4. Pray for eyes to see yourself the way God sees you, not the way shame does.
  5. Pray for permission to take up space in your own life again.

For Your Healing

  1. Pray for the grief to move through you instead of getting stuck.
  2. Pray for a soft heart that hasn't hardened into bitterness.
  3. Pray for the specific wound that still aches the most, by name.
  4. Pray for patience with your own healing timeline.
  5. Pray for the strength to forgive, even in pieces, even slowly.

For Your Provision

  1. Pray over your finances specifically — the actual number that scares you.
  2. Pray for wisdom in every financial decision this month.
  3. Pray for provision to show up in ways you didn't plan for.
  4. Pray for peace in the gap between what you have and what you need right now.
  5. Pray for the discipline to steward what you've been given well.

For Your Strength

  1. Pray for energy for the specific hard thing on your calendar this week.
  2. Pray for strength to show up steady for your kids even on your worst days.
  3. Pray for endurance that doesn't run out by Wednesday.
  4. Pray for God to carry what you genuinely cannot carry today.
  5. Pray for rest that actually restores you, not just distracts you.

For Your Peace

  1. Pray for a quiet mind before you fall asleep tonight.
  2. Pray for peace in the specific relationship that's costing you the most peace right now.
  3. Pray for the anxious thought on repeat to finally quiet down.
  4. Pray for God's presence to feel real, not just theoretical, today.
  5. Pray for a body that can finally exhale.

For Your Future

  1. Pray for clarity on the next right step — just the next one, not the whole map.
  2. Pray for hope that doesn't feel naive, but earned.
  3. Pray for the people who are meant to be part of your next chapter to find you.
  4. Pray for the courage to want something good again.
  5. Pray for a life you're genuinely excited to keep building.
"You don't need all 30 today. Pick the one that's true for you right now, and start there."

You Are Allowed to Pray for Yourself

If it feels strange or even a little selfish to spend this much prayer on your own life, that feeling is worth examining. Somewhere along the way, many of us absorbed the idea that praying for ourselves is less spiritual than praying for others. It isn't. You are not less worthy of God's attention than the people you're praying for. Your healing, your provision, your peace — these matter too, and they always have.

Go Deeper

Stormie Omartian's The Power of a Praying Woman expands on exactly this — 30 ways to pray specifically for your own life, purpose, and potential, with Scripture and guided prayers for each one. Get The Power of a Praying Woman on Amazon →

Related reading: The Prayer I Prayed Every Morning During My Divorce and Praying When You're Furious at God.

Pick one. Pray it today. That's enough. Step lively, Sis. 💚

— Jennifer