About one in four U.S. children under 21 lived with only one parent in 2022, per the U.S. Census Bureau. That is a lot of families coordinating across two homes.
And most of that coordinating happens on a phone. Pickup changes. Dentist bills. "Can we swap Thanksgiving?" texts at 10:47 p.m.
A co-parenting app won't make your ex kinder. What it can do is put every message, schedule change and expense in one place, with a timestamp. That alone lowers the temperature for a lot of families.
Here's a neutral, side-by-side look at the most common options. No affiliate links, no favorite brand.
Key Takeaways
- OurFamilyWizard, TalkingParents and AppClose all lock messages so they can't be edited or deleted after sending, according to their own sites.
- Pricing models differ: OurFamilyWizard is billed per parent, while one 2houses subscription covers the whole family.
- Some courts order or recommend a specific app. If yours does, that decision is already made for you.
- Low-conflict families may only need a free shared calendar. High-conflict families usually benefit from locked messages and exportable records.
- OurFamilyWizard and AppClose both list fee waivers for parents in financial need.
U.S. children under 21 lived with only one parent in 2022, with the other parent living elsewhere.
Why a Dedicated App Instead of Texting?
Texting works until it doesn't. Messages get deleted, screenshots get cropped, and a question about soccer cleats turns into a fight about 2019.
Dedicated co-parenting apps are built around three ideas:
- One channel. Everything about the kids lives in one place, separate from your personal texts.
- A clean record. Messages are timestamped, and on most of these apps they can't be changed after they're sent.
- Less emotional noise. Several apps now include a tone checker that flags heated wording before you hit send.
If you're still working out what to say once you're on the app, our co-parenting communication scripts are a good place to start.
The Comparison Table
Here's how the four main co-parenting apps compare, plus two general family tools. Prices are as listed on each company's site in October 2026. Prices change, so confirm before you subscribe.
| Feature | OurFamilyWizard | TalkingParents | AppClose | 2houses |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Price (US) | Per parent. Basic $110/yr, Essentials $149.99/yr, Premium $216/yr, Max $299.88/yr | Essentials $7/mo, Enhanced $16/mo, Ultimate $32/mo; annual option listed at 8% savings | Web: $7.99/mo or $83.88/yr. App: $8.99/mo or $98.99/yr. 60-day free trial | $14.17/mo or $169.99/yr; one subscription covers the family. 14-day trial |
| Locked messages | Yes, can't be edited or deleted; first-viewed timestamps | Yes, can't be edited or deleted; sent and viewed timestamps | Yes, no user can edit or delete a chat message | Messaging included; see site for record details |
| Tone help | ToneMeter; Writing Assistant on Essentials and up | Sentiment Scanner + Writing Assist on Ultimate only | Co-Parent Assist (optional) | Not listed |
| Shared calendar | Yes, with change requests | Yes, all plans | Yes, 15 custody templates | Yes |
| Expenses and payments | Expense tracking; OFWpay payment limits vary by plan | Accountable Payments; 2–4% fee depending on plan | Expense tracking; ipayou payments (U.S.), listed with no transaction fees | Expense tracking in Finance section |
| Calls | Documented calls (45 min/mo on Essentials, unlimited on Premium); optional recording on Max | Calls recorded and transcribed; 30 min, 60 min or unlimited by plan | Calls logged; recorded only if both people consent | Not listed |
| Records for court | Unlimited PDF records (Essentials and up); certified printed records (Premium and up) | PDF records (Enhanced and up); certified PDF or printed records available | Digitally signed PDF exports; certified electronic records in the U.S. | See site |
| Fee help | Fee waiver program listed | See site | Fee waivers for financial hardship and domestic violence survivors | See site |
Sources: OurFamilyWizard plans and messages; TalkingParents pricing and features; AppClose and AppClose subscription FAQ; 2houses pricing. Checked October 2026.
The low-conflict options: Cozi and a shared Google Calendar
Not every family needs a court-ready record. Cozi has a free plan, with Gold listed at $39/year and Max at $79/year. A shared Google Calendar is free with a Google account.
Both are great for schedules and lists. Neither is built to create a locked, exportable record of what was said, so keep that in mind if things ever get tense.
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The "best" co-parenting app is the one that fits your family's conflict level and your budget. Here's a simple way to think about it.
| Your situation | What to look for | Options to consider |
|---|---|---|
| Low conflict, mostly logistics | Shared calendar, lists, reminders | Shared Google Calendar, Cozi, or 2houses if you also want expense tracking |
| Moderate tension, occasional flare-ups | Locked messages, tone checker, expense log | AppClose, OurFamilyWizard Essentials, TalkingParents Enhanced |
| High conflict or ongoing litigation | Locked messages, recorded calls, certified records | OurFamilyWizard Premium or Max, TalkingParents Ultimate, AppClose certified records |
| Tight budget | Free trial, fee waivers, one price for the family | AppClose (60-day trial, fee waivers), OurFamilyWizard fee waiver, 2houses (one subscription per family) |
| Court-ordered app | Whatever the order names | Use the app your order specifies |
A few questions to ask yourself
- Do we argue about what was said? Then locked, timestamped messages matter most.
- Do we argue about money? Look closely at expense tracking, receipt uploads and payment fees. Our guide to financial boundaries with your co-parent pairs well here.
- Will my ex actually use it? A cheaper app both of you use beats a premium one only you open.
When a Court Orders an App
Some courts order or recommend a co-parenting app, especially when communication has broken down. AppClose publishes model court order language on its site, and OurFamilyWizard offers order language for legal professionals.
If your parenting plan or court order names a specific app, use that one. Don't switch on your own, even if another one looks cheaper or nicer. Talk to your attorney or mediator first.
And remember: an app's record is only as good as what you put into it. Whether any record is admitted as evidence is up to the court, as AppClose notes on its own site.
How to Use Any App Well
The tool matters less than how you show up in it:
- Write for the judge. Assume a stranger might read every message someday. Keep it short, kind and about the kids.
- Use BIFF. Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm. One topic per message.
- Put requests on the calendar. Swap requests belong in the scheduling tool, not buried in a long message.
- Log expenses the same week. Snap the receipt, upload it, move on.
- Set notification hours. You don't have to answer at 10:47 p.m. Choose a check-in window and protect your evenings.
- Don't respond to bait. If a message is hostile, answer only the part about the children.
If your ex uses every channel to push your buttons, our guide to co-parenting with a high-conflict ex walks through boundaries that actually hold.
"Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt." (Colossians 4:6) You don't control their messages. You do control yours.
Making the Switch Without a Fight
Suggesting an app can feel like starting a new argument. Keep the pitch about the kids and about simplicity:
"I'd like us to keep all the kids' scheduling and expenses in one place so nothing gets missed. Would you be open to trying [app name]? There's a free trial."
If your co-parent says no, AppClose's Solo Mode lets you send requests to someone without an account. Either way, keep your own records consistent.
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What is the best co-parenting app?
There isn't one best app for everyone. OurFamilyWizard, TalkingParents and AppClose all offer locked messages and court-ready records, while 2houses, Cozi and Google Calendar lean toward everyday organization. Choose based on your conflict level, budget and any court order.
Do both parents have to pay for OurFamilyWizard?
OurFamilyWizard's site says each parent needs their own subscription. It also lists a fee waiver program for parents in financial need. By contrast, 2houses says one subscription gives the whole family access.
Can messages be deleted on co-parenting apps?
On OurFamilyWizard, TalkingParents and AppClose, sent messages can't be edited or deleted, according to each company's site. That's a big part of why some courts order or recommend these apps.
Is there a free co-parenting app?
Cozi has a free plan and Google Calendar is free with a Google account, though neither is designed to create locked records. AppClose offers a 60-day free trial and fee waivers, and OurFamilyWizard lists free or discounted subscriptions for parents in financial need.
Can a court make me use a co-parenting app?
Some courts order or recommend a specific app, particularly in high-conflict cases. If your order names one, use it, and talk with your attorney before making any change.
This article is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice. As She Rebuilds™ has no affiliation with, and receives no compensation from, any app mentioned. Features and prices are as listed on each company's website in October 2026 and may change; confirm details directly with each company. For questions about court orders or evidence, talk with a licensed family law attorney in your state. If you are in danger, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.